OMG! SO WE ARE NOT COMPATIBLE AFTER ALL!

As a lady or gentleman, all you have fantasized about is to have a fairy tale relationship one day and then boom! You meet your self acclaimed Mr/Mrs right hoping for a happy ever after ending. But along the line, you notice things are not going as visualized. It is one issue or the other, one hitch or the other, tension every where! This is where the question of compatibility is raised.
For a relationship to be successful there are 5 components regards compatibility to be considered.

1. Physical compatibility 
Physical attraction is necessary, for a couple it cannot be over emphasized. There should be a desire and equal measure of closeness from hugging and cuddling to intimacy.
2. Intellectual compatibility
This is more elastic! You should have world views that generally put you on the same page not one that puts you against each other. Don't get me wrong, this must not always be the case, you can disagree to agree in not so conflicting areas.
3. Emotional compatibility
This is a compatibility test based on personality match(trace back to my series on Relationship Stability). Emotional compatibility is a starting point to know if you and your partner are on the right path.
4. Financial compatibility
Money matters are very major in relationships. Couples should agree on how finance is saved, spent, what percentage is expected as input and boost for the kids, relations, assets etc and come to a mutual conclusion to avoid conflict.
5. Spiritual compatibility
It is very crucial to be in a relationship with someone with the same belief and values as you because you have the same sovereign and basic rule to life.

These components are not mutually exclusive and play off on each other. This brings us to the puzzle of how to know you are not compatible with your partner before going deep and consequently getting hurt.



to be continued......

Truly
Val