Understanding the "5 LOVE LANGUAGES" in Relationship

We all express and feel love differently. Emphasis is placed on knowledge of your partner's needs and desires in and from the relationship expressed in a language you cannot even understand. Surprisingly, we ourselves are unaware of our unique love language talk more of knowing your partner's! Sometimes after several quarrel, no point made or taken, you just wish our partner could understand and interpret the wants and message you are trying to get across to him.
This concept was coined by American relationship expert Gary Chapman in his book The 5 love languages where this post got it's insight. The absolute depth of this book cannot be overemphasized. Chapman in his words states that "there are basically five emotional love languages. Within the five basic emotional languages there are dialects. The important thing is to speak the love language of your spouse". These love languages explained below.

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
One way to express love is to use words that compliments your partner.
We all should learn to always appreciate and compliment your partner verbally. Words of affirmation are motivators to reciprocate any act in the relationship. Encouraging words. In areas where your partner feels insecure and less confident, encourage him with the right words. It helps boost his ego and surprisingly his innate potential comes out. Kind words. We humans are emotional beings and sometimes the manner in which something is said we take to heart than what is actually being said. Humble words. We should learn to communicate our needs and desires as requests and not demands. Most times making demands kills the love in the relationship.
QUALITY TIME
Quality time in this context means giving your partner 100% undivided attention. A major aspect of quality time is togetherness. Find time and sacrifice other trivial things to focus on your partner on a usual basis. Let it become a habit. Take weekends off to travel together, office leave for vacation or just simply giving her your attention daily. Quality conversation. This means having compassionate discussions in a friendly and peaceful atmosphere. It is all about listening more and talking less. It is very important because it involves understanding your partner's thoughts feelings and desires.

RECEIVING GIFTS
A gift signifies that a person is special and in your thoughts. It is a reminder of love. A gift is the easiest love language to achieve. However a gifts need not always be tangible. There is also the gift of self. This is an intangible action of gifting your spouse with your presence and attention. A gift need not be expensive. It is not the gift that matters the most but the intentions.
ACTS OF SERVICE
Some people the best way to show your love is by the services you render to them, Especially things you know they love and will like you to do. However, we must be careful not confuse acts of service and being a doormat in the relationship.
PHYSICAL TOUCH
This is a crucial ingredient for both parties. Physical touch is a way of communicating emotional love and care. It makes or mar a relationship in the way it's expressed or handled. There should be a healthy dose of physical touch for a union to thrive.

Everybody has their unique love language or languages that works for them. It is important that you discover yours and communicate them to your partner so that you can enjoy mutual satisfaction in your relationship. Goodluck!


Truly...
Val